Mastering our Perceptions: How to Thrive and Live Authentically

To thrive and experience life to its fullest potential requires us to detach from the limiting beliefs and perceptions that hold us back. However it’s not always easy to  identify our attachments, those beliefs, perceptions and possessions that we cling to, often unconsciously. 

​If our perceptions are that powerful, how do we begin to change them so we can lead our lives and thrive and be our true selves?

Our attachments can stem from our upbringing, cultural conditioning, or past experiences, and can become strongholds for the way we think. They can be very powerful as they influence how we interpret events, people and experiences, and they shape how we respond to these. 

Attachments typically create a false sense of security and identity, which can hold us back from realising our potential and living as our true and authentic selves. 

So how do you identify your attachments?

You can begin by reflecting on the areas of your life where you feel stuck or constrained. Ask yourself:

• What beliefs do I hold that no longer serve me?
• Which past experiences am I holding onto that keep me from moving forward?
• Are there any relationships or possessions that I am overly attached to?

Our perceptions and beliefs create our reality. We may have beliefs about how we are perceived by others, or how other people should behave. Or we could have beliefs about money, relationships, how we should look, or how we perform in our job. When we honestly answer these questions, we can begin to uncover the attachments that hinder our growth.

The ego plays a significant role in creating and maintaining attachments. It’s the part of us that seeks control, validation, and a sense of identity. The ego is driven by fear and insecurity, or the need to protect ourselves. When we allow our ego to lead it can result in us clinging to our beliefs and perceptions as a way of feeling safe.

When you recognise how your ego is influencing your thoughts and actions, you may notice yourself becoming defensive or resistant to change. It’s important to take a moment to observe these reactions without judgment, and realise that these responses are coming from your ego, not your true self. This awareness can create space for detachment and growth.

Knowing how to release attachments is a process that requires intentional practice and self-compassion. One way is to clear stuck energy in the mind and body, which can be achieved through Reiki practices, yoga, sound therapy, meditation or breathwork. This can help you to quiet the mind and body, creating space for introspection and clarity. 

Other effective ways to overcome the habit of clinging to attachments and beliefs are through better management of our mind and intentional focus. 

By cultivating mindfulness and simplicity, we become more aware of our thoughts and can consciously choose which ones to engage with and which ones to release. By redirecting our focus to positive and empowering thoughts, we can shift our mental landscape from one of limitation to one of possibility. 

Additionally, setting clear intentions and practising gratitude can help anchor our focus on what truly matters, steering us away from old patterns of attachment and towards a more liberated and fulfilling way of being.

When we understand the power of attachments and how our beliefs and perceptions shape our reality, we can begin to see the benefits of detaching from unhealthy habits to create better ways of thinking and a more purposeful and empowered life. 

What we perceive in our world, and therefore what we believe, becomes the lens through which we experience life, influencing our emotions, actions, and overall well-being. If we perceive the world as a hostile and limiting place, our reality will reflect those beliefs, creating a cycle of negativity and restriction. Conversely, when we cultivate a perception rooted in love, abundance, and possibility, our reality transforms to mirror these positive attributes. 

By consciously choosing to shift our perceptions, we harness the ability to create a reality that aligns with our highest potential. This practice involves challenging and reframing limiting beliefs, embracing new perspectives, and remaining open to the endless possibilities that life offers. 

Letting go of attachments can help you to: 

• Reduce inner turmoil and create a sense of calm and balance. 
• Increase your emotional resilience, so you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and flexibility, and no longer be tied to specific outcomes or expectations.
• Connect more deeply with your true essence and higher self, fostering spiritual growth and enlightenment, and

• Improve relationships, by releasing expectations and judgments of others, so you can engage in more authentic and compassionate relationships.

Recently a client of mine was feeling stuck and trapped in a job she disliked.  She was feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. Over time she had developed the habit of perceiving her manager as the reason for her unhappiness, perceiving she was not liked, and that her performance was not good enough, leading to being constantly overlooked for promotional opportunities.  

Through mindfulness practices and affirmations, she identified her fear of failure and not being good enough, as the primary attachment holding her back. By gradually releasing this fear, she found the courage to pursue her passion for a career that was more aligned with her true gifts and strengths, leading to a successful career change and a profound sense of fulfilment.

Learning to detach from our limiting beliefs and perceptions is a powerful step towards living authentically. By identifying our attachments, understanding the role of the ego, and engaging in mindfulness practices, we can release what no longer serves us and embrace our true essence. 

Each step we take towards detachment brings us closer to a life of inner peace, emotional resilience, and spiritual growth. 

Remember, the journey of detachment is ongoing, and every moment of letting go is a moment of liberation. When we learn how to master our perceptions, we become the architects of our reality, empowered to live authentically and thrive.


Rebecca Gabrielle
Transpersonal Coaching to live your truth and lead your life.
www.RebeccaGabrielle.com

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